Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling

Couples struggle not only because of lack of skills but also because of a plethora of personal issues that get in the way. When each member are willing to look at, take responsibility for and work on their personal issues then couples get better. Really.

Because of personal issues, mainly of the family of origin variety, being in relationship can be difficult. Most are not programmed or trained, as it were, to know how to do relationships well. In fact most are trained in crashing and burning. For instance, most every commonly/frequently felt negative feeling is a piece of bad programming from the past and our partners can be the most common objects of the negative feelings. The result of these negative feelings is the ending of a bad script, i.e. I can’t get what I need, I am always doing it all, He/She is always critical, controlling, gets their way, _(fill in the blank_, etc. And more often than not, this is memorex.

That's why leaving is too easy for most. It is also one of the reasons we like to keep the therapy in house because we can direct these difficulties and blamitis back to the individual's issues and maintain and protect the coupleship.

So coming to couples therapy certainly make sense and is a great decision in terms of learning how to do relationships. It is a great decision in terms of becoming better at loving the one we are with. That really is one of the meanings of life. And not such an easy thing to do.

For a number of reasons, coming to therapy or counseling may be a hard step. But what better thing to do than to learn how to be a better partner, to repair your primary relationship and to heal and grow. The initial relief is real and the long term benefits can be grand

My wife and I use a blend of powerful and effective psychotherapies to wonderful ends. We work similarly and can offer couples several options depending on comfort level.
In fact, if one of you is more comfortable seeing a women, check her out. She is great.

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